12 April 2015

Music in a Brown Life - Vol 7

So I give these to friends electronically now. I know, technology.

My printer that I purchased in 2006 isn't compatible with the current Mac OS. And apparently you can't buy a printer to print to disc anymore because it's 2015 and no-one uses discs anymore. As such, I've had to evolve and instead created the playlist and shared it with friends electronically.

Put this compilation together a few months ago. I love funk & soul music so much. So many of these tracks I used to play back in the day when I did the odd bit of DJ work. The track I listen to the most would have to be the cover of Carol King's 'It's too late' by Bernard 'Pretty' Purdie and the Playboys. Bernard Purdie was a drummer with a really tight band (the Playboys) that did a whole lot of funky, soul stuff. Purdie was a legit drummer, created his own signature 'Purdie Shuffle' and played with James Brown, Aretha Franklin, Myles Davis, Isaac Hayes... the guy was amazing.


5 April 2015

Onwards and upwards

This post comes back around to this track so press play to listen whilst you read... go on, humour me.

So I am an emotionally aware guy. I nearly wrote 'I am an emotional guy' but I think 'emotionally aware' is more accurate. I understand people, I feel people's energy and I find I'm pretty intuitive. From that, I do my best to be conscious of what people in my life may need from me. They could need me to be supportive, they could need advice, they could need me just to listen or they could need me to leave them the f*ck alone. Different strokes for different folks. I'm sure sometimes I get it wrong but I dont' ignore what I see in people and I try not waste that awareness.

Fortunately I am also emotionally aware regarding my own emotional state. Well, maybe sometimes not so fortunately because when I'm down... f*ck I am down on myself. I don't really wear it on my sleeve and profess it to the world when it's there (oh but I'll write about it after the fact). I will however, quietly kick my own ass for Every. Possible. Thing.

The last few weeks I've just not been feeling it. I don't actually believe there's a reason for it, it's just been there inside me.

I've been quick to think negatively
I've been hard on myself
I've been unhappy with my work
I've been very critical of what I have or haven't done creatively
I've been dissatisfied with my results at the gym
My energy has been terrible

How much of this is reality and how much is me 'being hard on myself'? I don't know the answer to that, all I know are the underlying feelings I've had the past few weeks whilst I continue smiling to the world.

I remember a couple of years ago my friend Ant rang me one morning just to say 'I hope you have a wonderful day'. He'd been listening to a CD I gave him of Fuddsy Files 18 that had inspired him and put him in a good mood. Why I bring that up is because I've had these underlying negative feelings for weeks and then it all turned around when I heard this cover of Marvin Gaye's Sexual Healing a few days ago. I love how music can do that for you and I've been singing this ever since.

Baaaaaaabbyyyyyyyy... I'm hot just like your oven, I need your lovin.

Onwards and upwards. 

28 March 2015

To be alone with you - Hozier

Never feel too good in crowds,
With folks around, when they're playing
The anthems of rape culture loud,
Crude and proud creatures baying
All I've ever done is hide
From our times when you're near me
Honey, when you kill the lights, and kiss my eyes
I feel like a person for a moment of my life

It feels good, girl, it feels good
Oh to be alone with you

25 March 2015

Different places and spaces

It has been over a month since I've written anything. Sometimes I have a sentence in me, sometimes I can write pages and pages. Other times (like now) I've got nothing. It's not by design, not calculated. I just don't have it in me for some reason. I'm not inspired, I'm not interested. And what I've learned over the past year or so as I've been writing more is...

Just. Don't. Write.

Instead I think it's time to find inspiration in different places and space.

18 February 2015

Impromptu Jerk Chicken

My mate RG came over the other day.

Brother, you want a beer? Yeah sure.

You want some chicken? Yeah sure.

Ok cool, let's make Jerk Chicken.

12 February 2015

Will there be enough water when my ship comes in?

I've been listening to The Dead Weather a lot these past few months and in particular the track 'Will there be enough water?'

Will there be enough water when my ship comes in?

When I set sail, will there be enough wind?

I picture this grand, impressive ship coming in to shore, taking off from shore to set sail. Do you think the sea captain worries about if there's enough water or wind? Maybe. If we personified the ship, do you think it would pay mind to the water or wind? Maybe. I like to think that the ship understands it's purpose is greater than worrying about the water or wind. It will succeed regardless.

I'm drawing on this as an analogy for thinking, 'will the timing be right for my greatness?'. Yeah its a little ambitious I know, but I'm planning on there being greatness in my life. What I see as greatness may be different to you, but I don't want to belittle my dreams so I'll call it greatness all the same. And whilst I am a thinking man I see others around me putting too much planning into their progress. Too much thinking and not enough doing. I see others agonising, scrutinising and inevitably postpone or cancel being adventurous, creative and changing their lives for something amazing. For greatness.

Will there be enough water when my ship comes in? Greatness in life can't be planned like that. Greatness doesn't ponder whether it's timing is appropriate and if we want to achieve amazing things then we can't worry of that either. When I set sail, will there be enough wind? Will it be the right time, the right place, the right situation, will it all fall into place?

If you really want to achieve greatness in life then you won't ask yourself these questions. Greatness doesn't wait and it sure as hell doesn't care if the conditions are right.

Be great. And trust that everything else will fall into place.

7 February 2015

My People - Ali

This is Ali (or AK as I call her - her initials). We met years ago through working in the same industry. Even though we have our day jobs/careers, we both have had dreams of doing other things. For AK, it's food. She is an extremely talented dessert chef. Macarons, cakes, pastries, ice-cream, she does it all. And not some home-cook style desserts, AK is legit. She's a real pro at what she does and has started making a career of it.

Like many people with great talent she also doubts herself way too much. One positive from that is it keeps her humble but on the downside she worries, overthinks and stresses a lot more than she needs to. AK has a brilliant sense of humour and I'm glad she doesn't hold anything back with me; cause she's f*cking hilarious. AK also isn't your typical lady; she rides a motorbike, says f*ck, sh*t and c*nt where it's needed and eats like a bloke. But on the other hand she's a gorgeous gal, has an enormous shoe collection and can frock up with the best of them.

She's one of my people but AK and I did have a falling out once. It was worlds ago now so details of it aren't important but the result was me being really pissed off and our friendship over. We didn't speak for months until one night I decided to make amends. At the time I was stressed with a bunch of adult pressures and life was getting the better of me. I recalled a friend once saying 'to bring yourself out of darkness, you need to put light onto others' and the importance of forgiveness. I hadn't spoken to AK in months and whilst I still had the shlts with her, I had missed her friendship. I wondered if she was the one I should 'put light onto' as this wise friend had told me. I figured in some weird way it was the right time to do a positive thing for myself and for all I knew the timing could be something positive for her too. So I contacted AK and forgave her.

I am so glad I did because our friendship has grown to be one of the most important I have. You have those special relationships in your life where you become such close friends that it's like a marriage. In that, it's an unspoken constant, it's done, we are friends forever now and that's just how it is. My friendship with AK is like that... for as long as we both shall live. 

AK and I are both still in the same industry and both still working on our respective dreams. With these similar circumstances we've really come to rely on each other for advice and motivation. Different to myself who is quite expressive, open and wordy, AK is someone who says more in her actions than her words. And it's her actions that show me how important I am to her as her friend.

AK is always there for me, always supporting me and always has my back. I love this gal.

AK. One of my people.

5 February 2015

34 @ 34

Only 5 months left until I turn 35 and this list isn't moving along that fast... time to really start ramping shlt up!

12 down, 7 more in progress and 15 that I have done nothing about.

1. Complete a large home renovation project (eg - kitchen, ensuite)
2. Do the Yarra Valley with Leela and Danny. Trip to Melbourne pencilled in!
3. Bench-press, deadlift and single-leg leg-press my bodyweight. 
4. Cook a Terducken.
5. Build or rebuild/refurbish a piece of furniture.
6. Do a weekend trip with wifey to another city in Australia. 
7. Donate $1000 to charity. In progress, donated $100 to National Breast Cancer Foundation, $50 to MS ACT, and $500 to Independence Australia.
8. Buy a new big fancy Xmas tree. 
9. Get my teeth cleaned at the dentist.
10. Buy a king size bed.
11. Go a month without buying my lunch at work.
12. Buy a new piece of furniture.
13. Get a tattoo (still borderline on this one). 
14. Read a book about Louis Armstrong. In progress
15. Learn how to make sausages. Lessons pencilled in!
16. Kiss my wife in the rain.
17. Watch the sunrise over the ocean.
18. Photograph a series of portraits of my friends. I'm calling it, 'A Day Out With ....' and we'll hang out for a day, do fun stuff and I'll take a bunch of photos of friend in the process. Sounds fun hey? In progress - wanna do a Day Out With me? Larry, RG, Rob & Glenda are done, Kat on the list for April '15.
19. Write a love letter to my wife.
20. Get in a magazine/publication for something (not a criminal activity or something stupid).
21. Attend a winemakers dinner.
22. Drink Absinthe.
23. Bake my own bread (that's not a euphemism, I really want to bake a loaf of bread and try to perfect it!). Getting some recipes together to try soon.
24. Smoke a cigar.
25. Try Yoga. I've agreed to try Bikram in the next few weeks with my mate ERC. Sweaty, I'm talkin swamp-sweaty.
26. Do a day-trip with my Mum.
27. Get a pair of custom made jeans.
28. Lose 5kg.
29. Install a rainwater tank at home.
30. Play blackjack at a casino.
31. Spend a night on a boat/yacht/ship.
32. Go for a massage.
33. Host a vintage dinner party with my mate Natie.
34. Go to the Greyhounds in Narrabundah.

4 February 2015

Time to get my house in order

It's a thing I say to myself... time to get my house in order.

Basically it's me being hard on myself that I'm either not doing enough, not working hard enough, not doing something as well as I could be, not, not and not. I'm always analysing my life, trying to figure out how and where I can improve. I'm pretty hard on myself in private and I've learned to see the signs ahead of time. Those signs tell me I need to smarten the f*ck up and get my house in order.

Back in February, 2012 I injured my ankle in a basketball semi-final. I jumped up in the air, came down on another guy's foot and rolled my ankle over badly resulting in two torn ligaments and a small fracture. I had reconstructive surgery in the July that year and at the same time the surgeon performed a micro-fracture procedure. Basically they sawed through my heel, changed the shape of my foot and put a huge surgical screw in my foot.

For the next 8 weeks I could only get around with the use of a wheelchair or crutches. Physically, the recovery from the surgery was tough however it's a long road you can take your time with. But emotionally and mentally, those 8 weeks were terrible. All the simple tasks we take for granted all of a sudden I couldn't do. Showering, making myself a cup of tea, carrying something from one room to another, walking around the block with my dogs. And the emotional toll it took on me was huge. The wheelchair was handy to get around the house, but I hated being in that thing. I hated how I felt rolling my crippled ass around in that thing. 

I said to myself at the time that I was only going to have this limitation for a couple of months whilst I recovered and I was really struggling with it. How do people do this all the time? Do they have the support? How do they manage the emotional strain that this physical limitation puts on them? I said to the lovely Larry at the time that I was going to find a charity to donate to that provides this sort of support. After experiencing it first hand just for a couple of months I had a taste of what people must go through and I wanted to donate to a charity that supported people in those situations.

Short story... I never did it. I kept saying I would, but I didn't. Today I was talking to someone about a mutual friend who was going in for surgery. And I thought about being in that f*cking wheelchair and I realised I've been talking, not doing. Time to get my house in order and get this done.

After some research today I ended up speaking with the lovely people at Independence Australia. They are a charity focusing on supporting people with disabilities. A big part of their work is education and support for people who have a physical disability. Counseling for people with spinal injuries, home assistance, providing mobility aids, support groups.... everything I had been thinking of these guys do it.

So today I donated $500 to their great cause. I still feel bad that it took me so long to do it, but really glad I got around to it. But I also think the timing was right for me to do something positive and put some positive energy out there in the world for me and mine.

Got my house in order.

3 February 2015

A Day Out With Rob and Glenda

The weekend past we did a road trip to my brother Robbie and sister in law Glenda's place. This one wasn't exactly intended to be a Day Out With but I'll roll with it. Whilst I didn't get individual photos of them as portraits as I'd normally like, but we all spent the day together and as I normally do I photographed all the spaces in between. It was Liv's first day trip out of Canberra to Wollongong which went reasonably well although she was pretty tired most of the time the poor thing. Add to that it was windy and overcast so no getting in the ocean for little Liv. I still braved it and got in the water... so cold but so good!

My brother Robbie is very similar to me in that he loves to cook for people. So we turned up to find chilli chicken, kofta, salads, grilled vegetables. Robbie is a gun at this sort of stuff, he loves it. After a great meal and a few beers we made our way down to the beach two blocks from their home. The ice-cream van on the way didn't take eftpos which left a few sad faces. Not your typical Australian day out at the beach as it was very overcast but I loved it. This delicate white-apricot light fell on everything it was beautiful. Then after the beach I got a chance to go over Robbie's new car, a 1964 XM Ford Falcon. Such a fat old beast of a thing with a great sound.

A long day travelling up and back but a great day out with Rob and Glenda.